The Bitter and Sweet at the Table

Have you ever done anything that you are always known for – Divorce? Eating too much? Eating too little? Being shy? Being loud? Being sensitive? Being insensitive? Being quiet? Being loud? Being single? All of this reminds me of Mary Magdalene.

Do you ever wonder how Mary Magdalene did it? So many places she went she was recognized for who she used to be and not what she had become. How did she forgive herself; how did others around her forget or how did she just keep going? Well, sitting at her table was Jesus. He loved her where she was and for who she was. He was willing to give all for her. He saw everything about her – the past and better yet – who she was becoming in Him. Even when she faltered, He encouraged and reminded her of God’s great love for her.

Who is sitting at your table? Who are you giving a seat next to you that is reminding you of your past but not seeing who you are now or where you are going?

Are you looking across the table at someone who has it all together and you are slightly envious? Reminds me of the story of the cracked pot – it’s long but please hang in there-

There once lived a water carrier. Every morning, as soon as the sun rose, she walked from her home to collect water in two earthen pots that hung from a long pole that she carried across her shoulders. One pot was perfectly formed, the other, although the same shape and size as its counterpart, had a crack in its side. So, whenever they returned to the water carrier’s house it was only ever half full.

For years, the water carrier repeated her journey to and from her house collecting water from the river. As the years passed by, the cracked pot created a story in its head about its level of worthiness and inability to properly perform the job for which it had been created. Eventually, the pain and shame that it felt about its own perceived imperfections, became too much for it to bear. So, one day as the water carrier knelt beside the river and began her usual task of filling the pots with water, the cracked pot found its voice and said;

“I am so sorry. For years and years, I have watched you fill me with water and I can only imagine what a fruitless task it must be for you. As whenever we return to home, I am only ever half full. While in comparison, the other pot is perfect, rarely does it lose a drop of water on our long walk back to our home, but me, I am far from perfect. This crack in my side, not only does it cause me so much hurt and shame, but it must also cause you to want to get rid of me. Surely, I am only making this long, arduous job that you do each day, that much more difficult? I can understand if you are thinking of getting rid of me and replacing me with another perfectly formed pot.”

The water carrier listened to these words with both care and compassion. The cracked pot’s story of unworthiness and shame was not one that she recognised. For this was not what she thought of the pot. She knew about the crack, but did not see it as an imperfection, or as something that made it less worthy than the other pot that hung from her shoulder.

Gently, she turned to the pot and said, “On our return walk home, I want you to look up and to the side of you. For too long, it would seem you have been looking down, comparing yourself to others and not noticing how you and the crack that you have in your side has brought untold beauty into my life”

Puzzled, the cracked pot wondered what on-earth her words meant. She seemed to be suggesting that its story of lack, unworthiness and shame, was in some way faulty. As to how this could be, it could not comprehend.

However, the cracked pot trusted the water carrier. It occurred to it that in all the time that it had journeyed with her, she had never said a harsh word, never scorned or ridiculed it, but had always shown a sense of gratefulness and care when filling it with water.

So, on the return journey it heeded the water carrier’s words. It looked up and it looked out. In its former depressed state, it had not noticed that along the path that they travelled there was a dazzling array of beauty, colour and life. The water carrier in her wisdom, knowing of the crack in the pot’s side, had sprinkled seeds along the path. These seeds  were duly watered every day as a result of the crack in the pot’s side and the path that had once been barren and devoid of life was now resplendent with an array of beautiful wild flowers.

Us, like the cracked pot, can become so aware of our flaws that we cannot see the beauty in them. We do not understand what we are bringing to His table to be used to help others. “Carry each other’s burdens and so you will fulfill the law of Christ.” Galatians 6:2.

Who can you bring to the table? Not just what but who. The Table has plenty of room and all are welcome. Your past does not matter; your present is now and your future is between you and Him.

So, come to the Table. The mashed potatoes are plenty and there is lots of room.

Mashed potatoes and seasoning

Some come into your life for a season and some come into your life just to season it.

You are the salt of the earth. But if the salt loses its saltiness, how can it be made salty again? It is no longer good for anything, except to be thrown out and trampled underfoot. You are the light of the world. A town built on a hill cannot be hidden. Neither do people light a lamp and put it under a bowl. Instead they put it on its stand, and it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven. Matthew 5:13-16

Have you ever wondered if you were seasoning someone’s life or if you had lost your “seasoning” or saltiness (the positive kind)? In this time of uncertainty, it is easy to stay in the safe zone such as stay at home, not reach out to others, thinking you cannot possibly spread sonshine because you are hiding behind a mask?

When Covid hit, we were confined to our homes and told to only converse with those we knew. Our world became small. We were afraid to even look up and away from our masks when we walked thru stores to get essential day to day items. We argued over everything. Jesus can relate to that. The Pharisees and Saducees were very strict about making sure everyone followed the rules for the Sabbath. They did not want people walking too far; healing or whatever that would keep anyone from resting on the Sabbath.

Jesus eased people back into what God meant for the Sabbath. He seasoned it and brought light to it. It was to worship the One true God but with joy, spirit and love. Not worrying how far you are walking or if you have not obeyed all the Sabbath laws.

God wants you. You can drop the mask. You can even smile through one if you have to wear it. Just spread His sonshine and His love. We are not downtrodden.

You and all are welcome to His Table. There is room. There is light and life and the food is good with plenty of wonderful seasoning.
Hugs!! ☀️

Mashed Potatoes and Recognition

Deuteronomy 31:6Be strong and courageous. Do not be afraid or terrified because of them, for the Lord your God goes with you; he will never leave you nor forsake you.”

I walked into the dining room and she was sitting there having dinner. I walked up and said “Hey, Mom”. She stared and said nothing. No recognition at all. Her nurse looked over and said “Hey, it’s your daughter! She’s here!” Mom looked and said “Not mine.” Her nurse looked and said “I guess tonight you’re not hers.” So, I just went over and said why don’t we go and visit awhile? Then we went and talked, looked at pictures and then she went to bed

I know on another day she may know me and I’ll get the sweetest hug and smile. Some days are good and some days not so much. This night made me reflect on being recognized and loved beyond measure. God is that way always. He always recognizes His creation. He loves us beyond all measure. Even when we reject Him, He still loves us. I only have caught a glimpse of that in loving and walking this walk with our Mom. She doesn’t mean not to know things. It is the terrible disease. You still love even on those days when she looks at you says you are not hers.

I’ve thought about the times when I have shown pictures of my son, daughter in law and grandson to people. Most people enjoy looking at the hundreds of pictures I have. Then there are those that will look at the pictures and with barely an eye glance. I am like “Hey! These are the cutest pictures ever! What is wrong with you!” (Side note- I do not say that out loud. At least, I don’t think so.) Yet, God is that way too about all of His children. He is our biggest cheerleader. As we have heard before- If God had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it.

He loves us. He will never leave us or forsake us. He loves us as we are and will help us to become better if we ask. The best part He is always at the Table loving us and just waiting, He has the potatoes ready or He will just and listen. He knows you and still loves you.

Hugs-

Kelly Jo🌞

Mashed Potatoes and Not Forsaken

Isaiah 42:16 says, “I will lead the blind by ways they have not known, along unfamiliar paths I will guide them; I will turn the darkness into light before them and make the rough places smooth. These are the things I will do; I will not forsake them.”

As the journey with my mother is going down unfamiliar paths, I find God guiding us with His light. As He evens the rough places, He has not left her, my family or me. I find it difficult to walk this path in front of us. We have promised her when she forgets that we would not. For she is my mother and I her daughter and I do not want to fail her. Even though this is not what we would have chosen, we will always make sure we are there. So many are there for her and we are beyond blessed.

When the word Alzheimer’s is spoken, for some, it is as if people forget there is a real person there sometimes. They are amazing people that are still there. They are you and me just with a jacket of experience and age that can be trapped inside of their bodies. There are times they need someone to just sit and hold their hand. It reminds me of a story. 

There was a child whose friend had fallen and scraped her knee and was sitting in a mud puddle. The little child went and sat with her  little wounded friend in the mud puddle until help arrived. She could not do anything else but she knew she could just be there for her until someone could help her. When we don’t know what else to do, sometimes we just need to sit (even in a mud puddle) and be there for someone. 

When we sit around God’s table, there are times we can’t find the words. We may just sit there in silence. The darkness may try to encompass us but it can’t. His light pierces the darkest of darks. We need to remember  that the smallest of candles can pierce through the darkness. He will always be able to reach Mom even when we can’t. He can and always will be there to guide her and hold her. Just like the mashed potatoes she once made, He can make things that were rough smooth. 

Mom’s mashed potatoes were always smooth. They never had lumps and were ever so silky. When reading the verse from Isaiah, it speaks to my heart and gently reminds me that God is taking the rough places and smoothing them out. 

One day we will all be around His Table again and we will be whole. We will be at a great and wondrous feast. Until that day, He will never leave us. He will be sitting alongside us at The Table passing the mashed potatoes and lighting the way. 

Hugs ☀️

Mashed Potatoes and the Window


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Tap, tap, tap- I looked back and there was her hand.  I thought I got out fast enough but she is quick for a woman of almost 80 years old. (My mother does not know she is 80. She will always ask how old she is.  Then she will say she looks so young for her age!) My mother’s hand was on that window. She was waiting for me to come back and say goodbye once again. She knows that she cannot come on the other side of the door.  Through the small window, I look through and she mouths the word goodbye. I say bye again and she puts her hand on the window.  I put mine to the window meeting hers. It feels like leaving your child the first day of school. The lump in your throat when you have to turn and walk away.  You see, Mom is in a rehabilitation/nursing home facility for wonderful men and women who have Alzheimer’s Disease. Incredible nurses and aides are taking care of Mom and her new found friends there. We are incredibly blessed. A few moments after I leave, Mom will not remember that I had been there. In a strange way, this is a comfort. I will take away the memory of that moment. The hand on the glass for that brief time reminding my Mother that she is loved and so am I.

Is that not like God? He gives us comfort in unexpected places and times. Some days, they are not easy to find. Sometimes, we have to wait until we are past the pain a little to see that He was holding us all the while.  He is our refuge. I love that! Just as His word says.  Trust in Him at all times, for God is our refuge. (Elohim Machase Lanu- God is Our Refuge) Psalm 62:18. When the waves of life seem so overwhelming, He is our refuge. I delight that I can come to The Table and pour my heart to Him and He listens. He is the God of the Universe and He will just sit at The Table with me. He takes me as I am. He is my refuge. As we walk down this path of Alzheimer’s, we will not fear for God will be there. There will be more times of hands on the window, but He will walk with us. We will be able to go to The Table and know there is warmth and nourishment there. The mashed potatoes will be plenty and there love abides.

Hugs-

kjs☀️

 

Mashed Potatoes and Twinkies

Mashed Potato Days? What do they mean? What they can boil down to is this- some days are lumpy, some days are smooth, some days need extra helpings and some need gravy just to get you through. God brings people into our lives sometimes for a moment or for a lifetime. Yet, for however long it is, what a blessing He gives through them. In Hebrews 13: 1-2, it says: Keep on loving one another as brother and sisters. Do not forget to show hospitality to strangers, for by so doing some people have shown hospitality to angels without knowing it. 

Sometimes it may depend upon your definition of angels, I guess. I am not looking for a theological debate. Just looking from a heartfelt standpoint. Have you ever entertained an angel? Take for example the story about the young boy who decided one day to go out and meet God. He knew it was going to be a long journey. He packed a six pack of rootbeer, box of Twinkies and headed out. He headed down the street and got all the way to the City Park. Quite a long way for a young man.He saw a bench and headed to rest. He sat next to am older gentleman. The young boy pulled out a rootbeer and a Twinkie that he had packed. The older gent smiled. The young boy thought that the man’s smile was amazing. He wanted to see it again. So, he offered him a rootbeer. The older gent smiled and took it. They talked a little. The boy offered him a Twinkie and the old man smiled again. They boy was so excited. The gent said it was the finest time he had in quite awhile in the park. They sat and talked until dusk. Then it came time for the two to depart.

The boy went home and his mother asked what did he do that day. He said, “I met God today! He has the most amazing smile! And he likes rootbeer and Twinkies too!”

Across town the older gentleman arrived at home. As he sat down for dinner with his son, his son asked how his day went. The gentleman said, “I spent the day with God. He was so much younger than I expected. We had the most amazing time. He likes Twinkies like me!”

You may be someone’s smile today. You never know when you need to have a chair ready at your Table. One small gesture can change a person’s entire day. It is amazing how one act of kindness can turn things around. One other thing, always remember – God always has His Table ready. He is always ready to listen. The mashed potatoes are waiting. The Table always has a chair for you. By the way, I have a chair too. If you need someone, I am here to pray for you too.

Have a very Happy Mashed Potato Giving Thanks Day!

Hugs,

kjs☀️

Mashed Potatoes and Saying Grace

  
  
I have not been able to come and make any mashed potatoes lately. It’s not that I have not been to The Table. I have been at the Table just sitting with Him. Right now, life is just crazy busy. Not anymore busy than it is for any other person. All of us have things going on in our lives that we struggle through. However, life has had some lumpy mashed potatoes for my family as of late. Our brother passed away of cancer and our mother has Alzheimer’s and has been ill. We hold fast to His word and know we all will be around The Table together again. What a mighty big table that will be! Those mashed potatoes will be so heavenly! 

Lately, when I bow may head to say grace it has a bigger impact on me. My family usually wants me to get grace over with but I am just overwhelmed with His love. While thinking about that, I was reminded of this story, not sure if you have heard it or not but we all need a reminder….

There was a young boy, who was about 6, and his mother who went to a restaurant and he wanted to say grace. As they bowed their heads he said, “God is good, God is great. Thank you for the food, and I would even thank you more if Mom gets us ice cream for dessert. And Liberty and justice for all! Amen!”

Along with the laughter from the other customers nearby, a woman made the remark, “That’s what’s wrong with this country. Kids today don’t even know how to pray. Asking God for ice cream! Why I never!”

Hearing this, the young boy burst into tears and asked, “Did I do it wrong? Is God mad at me?”

As his mother assured him that he had done a terrific job, and God was certainly not mad at him, an elderly gentleman approached the table.

He winked at the boy and said, “I happen to know that God thought that was a great prayer.” “Really?” the boy asked. “Cross my heart,” the man replied.

Then, in a theatrical whisper, he added (indicating the woman whose remark had started this whole thing), “Too bad she never asks God for ice cream. A little ice cream is good for the soul sometimes.”

Naturally, The mother bought her son ice cream at the end of the meal. The young boy stared at his for a moment, and then did something that those all around will probably remember for a long time.

He picked up his sundae and, without a word, walked over and placed it in front of the woman. With a big smile he told her, “Here, this is for you. Ice cream is good for the soul sometimes; and my soul is good already.”

Does your cup overflow already??? Who are you today in that story? We know who would like to be, but some days.. 😉. The best part of it is it does not matter to the One sitting at the Table. He accepts you for who you are. So go ahead and thank Him and ask Him for the ice cream (or mashed potatoes). He will pass them over. Just remember. Thank Him for all things. It will all be so beautiful and tasty- wait and see.  

Hugs-

kjs☀️

Mashed potatoes and Uncle Goethel

It seems several people have that favorite aunt/uncle in their life. Well, I have the blessing of several wonderful uncles and aunts. However, in my family, I had this Great (both big “G” and little “g”) uncle that was one of those characters you just loved being around. His name was Mortz Goethel Moyers. Quite the character. He’s been gone for many years, but his legacy and stories still live on in our hearts.

He had a way of making anyone feel special. You always felt like you were his favorite. He would start talking to you and you could tell you had his full attention right away. I believe all of us at sometime or other believed we were going to be named after him or at least were going to name one of our children after him. My aunt and/or my cousin (who is a very nice lady), were going to be named after him. Would that mean their name(s) would have been “Goethelina”? AND just to make the record clear, none of us would have minded one bit. To carry on his name, any one of us would have loved it.

Mind you, he did not walk on water or anything like that. Quite, the contrary. He would walk into my grandma’s house (or Mammaw’s, affectionately called) and stir the pot. He would get some situation going – whether it was about politics, religion, the weather or whatnot. Everyone would just start choosing their sides. He would sit back and smile. As quickly as he stirred it all up, he would slip out the back door quietly as a church mouse knowing that his work was done. All the more satisfied that he had done his duty.

He was a loving and caring person. He could put you at ease from the moment he met you. He just had that way. He would talk to you about anything – from how the local cemetery was laid out; how he made his car run on propane gas instead of gasoline; to the time how he won a 25 pound bag of navy beans, which he had to eat forever! He took time out for those he loved.

That’s the way it is at the Table. When you come, you are immediately at ease. You are welcome. You are wanted. You do not have to do anything special to be there. You just have to be – there. The One at the table will talk to you about anything – sincerely – anything. He has more patience than any saint you will meet. In fact, He created them and you. The beauty of it all is this. He knows you better than you know you. He loves you no matter what. He loves to sit and talk for hours on end. He will listen to everything you have to say. He has literally heard it all and He will not turn you away. The Table is big and has plenty of room for anything you want to bring to it. Your bills, your tears, your anger, your laughter, your joys, your victories, your family – there is room for it all and them all. Anyone and everyone are welcome. He walked a very long, dusty and cruel road to meet you at that table. He did not want to be late for you or anyone you wanted to bring. He has plenty to give as well. You do not have to bring anything. He has it all just for you. All you have to give is what you have – YOU. The mashed potatoes are waiting. Let Him drop some on your plate today and anyone else you brought along. No matter what is going on. Nothing is too hard, too heavy, too difficult. Pull up a chair.

Hugs,

kjs☀️

Mashed potatoes and chairs

   

 What happens when you sit at a different table? When you are the new one? When you are the one newly accepted, it’s exciting, wonderful, loving and an unmeasurable sense of belonging. What about the time you sat alone at the table? No one wanted to sit at your table?  

When family doesn’t support you or cut you to the quick or friends do not understand the path you want to take? When a diagnosis is beyond your comprehension either personally or for a loved one? When you have accepted a new job or are graduating and deciding what career path to take? We all are going through some sort of life change all the time either positive or some of the more challenging kind. Cancer, Alzheimer’s, new jobs, births, adoptions, divorce, death, weddings, graduations- the list always has something on it. Take heart.  There is someone that is sitting at our table that understands. He knows every seat we take or do not take. He is always watching and caring even when we do not think He does or is. He brings us this promise: 

I have told you these things so that in me you may have peace. In this world you will have trouble. But take heart. I have overcome the world. John 16:33. 

The blessing in all of this is- He is holding a chair out waiting for you, for me. It is for anyone who wants to come. No matter what! He wants to celebrate with us. He will bring the cake. He will mourn with us. He will sit and hold us for as long as it takes. So come to the table with all you have. He will have just what you need. I’m sure that there will be some mashed potatoes waiting there for you and anyone you bring along.  

Hugs,

kjs ☀️

Mashed potatoes and the Table

   


To come to the Table – to eat, to visit, to listen. Why do you go to the Table? Have you thought about the table where you eat? Is it to study? To gather with family, friends to catch up? How is it made? Some have designated places to sit when they gather. Some just grab the nearest seat. 


Yet, what about the Table? Sturdy, steady, steadfast. Remind you of anything, anyone? No matter what messes we make, the Table handles them. I know you may be thinking there are some tables that cannot handle some of the weight that we put on them. Some were not made for the trials that we put them through. Case in point: friend of mine decided that the light above their table was hanging too low during a dinner function. So, he decided to zip-tie it up during their family’s get-together.  He decides to stand on the table to make the necessary alterations to the light. Steady as he goes. He gets to the middle of the table. Starts to zip-tie the light and bam! No table-no more! Just floor! He was fine. What a jolt! No one could have seen that coming, I am sure. It’s like that in life. When we go try to fill our life with things that aren’t of God, we will fall. When we go to the One who can carry us when we are weak, when we need to be picked up, or when we just need to catch up, He will be there- steadfast and sure.

He meets us right where we are. He is at the Table always waiting for us, ready to listen, advise, or just sit with us. He doesn’t leave us to dine alone or sit alone no matter the strength of the Table. However, He is always at the Table available and waiting. So, pass the mashed potatoes, pull up a chair, bring a friend or two and let’s sit and visit. Just can’t wait!

Hugs,

kjs☀️